Hey, I wrote a thing!

January 24, 2014

Specifically, I wrote a thing for The Toast, which you should all be reading in general because it is wonderful. You should read my piece at least five times each so the editors ask me to write more things for them.


October 3, 2009

At school yesterday, I was waiting for a colleague to finish talking to another teacher. She turned to me and said, “Yes, sir.”

And then died a little.

It was clearly one of those it’s-Friday-and-I’m-fried things, a simple slip of the tongue. She was mortified. She even mentioned it to the next person who walked by–“I just called her ‘sir!'”

And I laughed along, and was greatly amused by the whole thing.

But then suddenly it struck me: I’m not out at work.

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July 2, 2009

You know, despite my yen to have a bigger readership, there are definitely some advantages to running a small-time blog. Case in point: bigger blogs probably have to deal with comments like this all the time:

So what, people can’t have sexual attractions to specific people? Oh, I know, I should stop going after people I find attractive, suppress my desires and live a ‘normal’ life. OH WAIT WHERE HAVE I HEARD THAT ONE BEFORE? Jesus Christ, you have such a double standard.

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As Usual, Listen to Gunner

May 10, 2009

With Gunner’s permission, I’m reposting a piece Gunner Scott added to the transgender LJ community:

We need our own Trans Political Groups
I posted this as a response to NH not passing trans rights, but I would like more people to see this…

Transgender issues will never be a priority for LGB(t) groups. Whether that is achieving laws, changing policies, or advocating for resources. I am not just saying this because I am part of MTPC, but if we want our community to be equal then we need to do the work. LGB(t) can support this, but we need to be steering that ship and not waiting for LGB(t) groups throw us a bone.

There is more to equality/rights/liberation then just passing non-discrimination laws. I think California is a good example – even though they have non-discrimination laws many trans people are still experiencing employment/poverty issues, so they next step is services, job fairs, education etc… and that is what Transgender Law Center does and this is and will be the types of stuff MTPC will do before and after a law passes.

We need our transgender organizations to advocate for us… we cannot wait for HRC, NGLTF, or MassEquality or any other state equality group to do it for us. We need to do it ourselves which means we need to fund our trans organizations, we need to volunteer, and we need to show up.

The other issues with NH was that not that many trans people showed up for the hearings on the bill, not that many trans people made phone calls to their legislators, not that many trans people got their friends to call.

We can be mad at larger orgs for not pushing as hard as they should have and for putting marriage first, but we also need to hold ourselves accountable when we don’t do our own heavy lifting. And yes those larger LGB(t) orgs did put all their money and resources to marriage in NH. We need to do they same – we need to put our resource into our own movement.

If you have a job, then start donating (if you don’t already) to a transgender specific advocacy group in your area and/or NCTE – monthly, $5 a month does make a difference when we have several people doing that. If you can do more then do that. I give to several transgender specific orgs, some monthly, others once a year. Lets get more transgender people hired to work for trans rights full time – it makes a huge difference to have trans people at the table advocating for rights and resources. We are the experts on our lives… we are not some LGB(t) group.

If you don’t have money then donate your time and show and do something…

I know I sound like a broken record, but after doing this for over ten years and the reality is no one and I mean no one is going to fight as hard for our rights, for resources for our community then we are, trans people.

LGB people don’t get us and I don’t think they ever will…(and I also identify as being queer) yes they can be our ally, but our issues will never ever and I mean never be their priority. We as the larger trans community need to stop thinking that someday they will. The LGB(t) orgs are not going to save us. As long we have no power or influence in their organizations, meaning on boards and big donors, trans issues and the needs of the trans community will never be at the top of the list. There is no incentive for that. Our needs will always be pushed to the bottom.

So yes be mad at HRC or NGLTF or your state marriage group or equality group, but do something more with that anger…

We need to be our own movement, we need to make our allies and not just with LGB groups, we need to fund our own organizations, and push for our own rights.

We can do this, I know we can…

We’re* Not An Afterthought

May 1, 2009

I’m not impressed with some of the big feminist blogs’ handling of Wednesday’s events in the New Hampshire Senate.

In summary, both Feministe and Feministing threw up “Yay NH!” posts after marriage equality passed in the Senate. After commenters quickly called them out on not mentioning that the senate also rejected trans* rights protections, both Jill and Vanessa updated their posts to include that information–although in both posts the update was more along the lines of “Whoops! And also this happened” with little discussion or information. (Jill gets more credit for linking this article and quoting three paragraphs; Vanessa’s update consisted of two lines and two links, one of which was actually another Feministing post.)

So why wasn’t the anti-discrimination law on the radar, and why does it matter that it only got tacked on to these two posts?

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Comic FAIL

April 12, 2009

I hadn’t heard anything about the controversial Erika Moen cartoon (I’m not linking it directly, partly because several people have said it’s really triggering for them, partly because I don’t want to give her the traffic, and partly because she’s completely disabled comments on her livejournal, which I think is a really questionable strategy) until I read this Feministe thread on the fetishization of trans* people. I’ve been watching comments unfold there, but more importantly I’ve found really interesting discussion about the comic–and links to other comics–winding all around the internets.

So, it’s time for some links.

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Is It Worth the Fight?

April 11, 2009

Let me start this out with a disclaimer: I don’t watch local news. Like, ever. My parents watched it somewhat regularly when I was growing up, and I’ve often found shows like 60 Minutes interesting, but I’ve never been a news-watcher. I also don’t regularly read any newspapers or news publications. I very selectively read the Times and the Boston Globe online, mostly for technology and education stories, and I occasionally read an article or two from Time or Newsweek when they come in at work, but they’re not really on my radar most of the time.

I get the vast majority of my news from blogs I frequent and, perhaps most importantly, from Twitter. (And I now try to share alike–anything that I read that strikes me as interesting or important gets tweeted.)

So it was sort of like major culture shock to look at the recent local news coverage of various proposed non-discrimination legislation.

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A Quick Note

April 4, 2009

I just wanted to apologize for my careless language use lately. If you haven’t read Cedar’s fantastic post on language politics, get thee to Taking Up Too Much Space.  Seriously. Like, now.

I did read (and enjoy) Julia Serano’s Whipping Girl, and at the time I definitely had a “Holy crap, I never even though of that!” moment over why trans _____ (with a space) would be a preferable term over the all-one-word variation. (Note: I’ve definitely seen some trans* folks themselves use all-one-word constructions, and I would never think I have any right to tell them how to speak or identify themselves. But, as Cara from The Curvature pointed out to me via Twitter, so far I haven’t heard anyone say that leaving the space in is offensive, whereas plenty of people have said sans-space most certainly is.  And when someone tells me I’ve said something offensive, I make it a policy to listen.) But apparently at some point I forgot.

Anyway, that’s why I just systematically went through my blog and adjusted all my language to get the spaces back in–thankfully there weren’t too many, so I guess this hasn’t been a very long lapse, but it was a lapse nonetheless, and I’m sincerely sorry.

I’m also sorry that I undoubtedly made the same mistake many times over in the recent gargantuan comments thread about bathrooms, public access and Focus on the Family over at Feministing. Again, several other people there self-identified using the all-one-word construction, so perhaps my usage didn’t stand out much, but I really wish I could go back and change it.

Bathroom FAIL

April 1, 2009

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Speaking for and with

February 27, 2009

Lately Sig Fig (total star of the week; read the post below) and I have been talking about the dangers of speaking for instead of with when trying to be a good ally. We’re concerned specifically about being trans allies, though I think it’s a question that should come up in trying to be a good anti-racist ally (as white folks), as a good feminist ally (if you’re a dude)… really any kind of ally. Read the rest of this entry »